Have You Gone Through Your Hoe Phase?

Women have always dealt with society’s double standard on sex and the ideal expectations we have to live up to. Be nice, be pretty, have a cute bum, speak a certain way, behave a certain way, be naive so you aren’t labeled a hoe, and least you are not considered wife material.

According to Urban Dictionary, this is a phase in your life that occurs frequently when you are fine with exploring promiscuous activities and connecting with random people. These activities do not always end in sex, but can lead to it. You have a high tendency to dance provocatively with strangers, be a tease in social settings, flirt non-stop, make-out with others, and get caught up in the moment. This phase helps you establish what you like and don’t, explore your sexuality, and have fun. You have the ability to stop these actions or snap out of the phase.

For most women, this phase usually occur after a bad break up or during a stressful period and they want to let loose. Whatever initiated the hoe phase in a woman, it is definitely a learning process, a time to explore, know yourself sexually, and experiment. Going through the hoe phase has left many women more confident, not just sexually but in all areas of life. Knowing you are living for yourself, even learning about your personality, strengths and weaknesses.

The idea that you shouldn’t project so much sex appeal, that you shouldn’t exceed a certain body count is hypocritical and fast fading. These norms aren’t as imposed as it used to be, because as stated above society has double standards. Women’s bodies are used to sell everything from cars to fashion accessories to even burger!

So live life, live for yourself, live for memories, do what sits well in your heart and protect yourself always.

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  • ibironke

    Funny thing is this hoe phase is what boys do on a daily. I honestly wish the world will get to a place where it stops trying to label a woman differently just cos she enjoys see as much as the a guy .And yes I’m in my ” hoe” phase right now joined tinder and just really the swiping right life. Co.

    • Looool, swiping right life! I share the same sentiments with you, I don’t bother with society and its labels.